Hi
I'm not sure what to write, this is the 1st time on a support group, I am a survivor myself and struggling to recover after years of trying to bury what happened to me. It is hard, I am a christian and trying to get help now through prayer but it is hard? I was given this site from the curate at my church. Sorry but I don't know what else to say right now but maybe this a start in the right direction who knows.
hi and welcome
Hi Nicola
just wanted to say hi and welcome you to S:Vox. Well done on taking the huge step and reaching out on here for support.
As Claire says there is a group in the london area - i am sure that the moderators will get back to you with more details as soon as they are able.
once again, welcome!!
Sandee
Firstly I want to say
Firstly I want to say welcome Nicola! And secondly well done for taking this step and being brave in posting here. It is also great that your curate knew of S:VOX!
I hope you will come to find this a safe place to talk and vent your feelings and emotions. We are all survivors who come together to support each other. There is compassion and understanding amongst us.
Have a look around the site- we have self help weekends a few times a year which you may be intersted in.
Prayer is important but i think the understanding of those who can relate to what you have been through and are astruggling with is so important. I hope you can find that here.
Love
Claire :-)
''Pooh!'' he whispered.
''Yes, Piglet?''
''Nothing,'' said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw. ''I just wanted to be sure of you.''
Hi Thank you for your
Hi
Thank you for your comments, I do need reassurane that there is life out there and I can find it without feeling alone in what I have experienced, I feel so alone in what I have gone through, I've kept it to myself all these years & I have finally come out & spoke for the 1st time to the vicar at my parish church don't know how or why I had the courage to pass this onto him it just felt right at the time but now resurfacing the pain it is hard to bury it again, that is why I am struggling, I can't believe that I am now trying to discuss this now. I feel sometimes that I have no life that I should be with God in heaven as I struggle so much with life on earth. I'm sorry about this I try to be positive but its hard. Many thanks again for your words.
Nicola
Hi Nicola, Don't
Hi Nicola,
Don't underestimate the achievement of opening up to someone. You should feel proud of yourself for reaching out.
Life is a struggle and as survivors we carry so much inside of us as well that just adds to the stresses we face. You have come this far and I think that shows your strength and that God wants to on the earthly side of life still!
Can I ask which part of the country you are in? We have some local groups set up and are hoping to have more where the need is. There may be one near you already which you could tap into.
Don;t feel the need to apologise about anything. We are all here under common ground and have no need to apologise for how we are feeling at any particular time.
Thinking of you
Claire x
''Pooh!'' he whispered.
''Yes, Piglet?''
''Nothing,'' said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw. ''I just wanted to be sure of you.''
Hi Claire Thank you again, I
Hi Claire
Thank you again, I live in Greater London nr Heathrow. I have emailed contact us to see if there were any local groups. I do know and realise that God wants me here but its just hard sometimes to realise this, thats why I need the help to realise this rather than take the easy option. I've been there don't that if you know what I mean & no I'm not planning to do it again, I feel strong with God now & his guidance will lead me through, at least thats what I'm hoping.
God bless
Nicola
Hi Nicola, I believe there
Hi Nicola,
I believe there are groups in London but I am not sure where abouts. The moderators may be busy right now, but they will get back to you.
I hope today is a good day for you
God bless
Claire
''Pooh!'' he whispered.
''Yes, Piglet?''
''Nothing,'' said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw. ''I just wanted to be sure of you.''
Hi Nicola
may I add my welcome and also say well done you for taking those first steps - telling your curate, contacting us, posting here. To use an unattractive image, I often think that first telling is like lancing a boil - messy and disgusting and seems to get worse not better - but actually once all teh revolting stuff is out things start to get better.
I hope you can tell yourself these are all steps to a better place and you can take all the time that you like to get there.
About groups there certainly is a London one and one of the facilitators from that group should contact you soon, if she hasn't already done so.
Good to meet you here (although sorry for the reason that brings you)and hope you will keep posting,
Jane
Hi Its been a little while
Hi Its been a little while since posting, I'm up and down all the time, sometimes I don't know what to do, I'm still trying to discuss my experience with the vicar but it is hard I'm not the best of opening up as never been able to do it in the past, as Rick said I've been to pyschotherapy etc & it never seemed to have done it for me, I wasn't able to open up & discuss what happened properly in detail. I find it hard to talk & feeling guilty bout not being able to discuss with my family especially my parents. I want to but don't know how to or if it would make things worse? I don't know what to do for the best! Do I keep it from them cos it was so long ago now I don't want them to feel guilty, although I feel bad that I haven't discussed it sooner! Oh what to do.
Hi Nicola, I just wanted to
Hi Nicola,
I just wanted to share something I am finding helpful right now. Penny Parks inner child therapy. I am using her book as a work book to do myslef. Her theory is that you dont need to face to detail of traumatic experiences as this may just re-trigger you and cause more turmoil. Her theory work around the issues and beliefs that we have been left with as a result of our past.
Inner child work is not for everyone, but I thought I would share as I too can;t speak of detail, and this sits more comfortably as it helps to resolve things without bringing up detail. After doing other therapy things, this is the only thing that has spoken to me in a way that I feel I can make changes.
Maybe facing detail would help. I know it does for some. Please try not to feel guilty about not telling parents as we carry enough burdens and guilt from our past, and it is one you can do without.
Be safe and kind to yourself while you are working on challanging things. Do you have things in place to keep you safe and grounded?
Thinking of you
Claire x
''Pooh!'' he whispered.
''Yes, Piglet?''
''Nothing,'' said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw. ''I just wanted to be sure of you.''